Excuses Are Just Fancy Lies You Tell Yourself
- Coach Vess
- Nov 27
- 3 min read
Let’s cut the crap: excuses are just well-dressed lies. They’re your mind’s Gucci knockoffs - shiny on the outside, useless on the inside. And the truth? Excuses are the reason you’re not where you say you want to be.
You’re not “too busy” - you’re scrolling TikTok at midnight. You’re not “too tired” - you just watched another Netflix series you’ll forget in two weeks. You’re not “bad at relationships” - you just keep choosing walking red flags like it’s a sport.
Sound harsh? Good. You’re here for growth, not lullabies.
Why We Make Excuses (and Why They’re So Damn Convincing)
Excuses feel like comfort food for the ego. They let you believe you’re still a good person and avoid doing the hard thing. Win-win… until it’s not.
The psychology behind it is simple: your brain hates discomfort. It’s wired to protect you from pain, risk, and rejection. So it serves up ready-made excuses on a silver platter:
• “I’ll start on Monday.” (Translation: never.)
• “It’s just not the right time.” (Spoiler: it never will be.)
• “I don’t know how.” (Hello, Google exists.)
Your excuses sound rational, but they’re the enemy of your potential. They keep you in a loop of wanting without doing, wishing without moving, and dreaming without living.
The Biggest Excuses We Tell Ourselves (And Why They’re BS)
1. “I don’t have time.”
Honey, Beyoncé has the same 24 hours. You’re not short on time, you’re short on priorities.
2. “I don’t know where to start.”
Neither did anyone else who ever did something worth doing. Start messy. Start ugly. Just start.
3. “I’m not ready yet.”
That’s your fear in a ball gown. Nobody feels ready - readiness comes after you do the damn thing.
4. “It’s just who I am.”
Cute, but no. That’s just laziness with a side of identity crisis. You can rewrite your story at any point.
5. “What if I fail?”
Newsflash: you already fail every time you do nothing. At least failing forward gets you somewhere.
Excuses Are Expensive - Here’s the Bill You’re Paying
Every excuse has a cost. It’s not just about the thing you didn’t do - it’s about what you lose along the way:
• Lost opportunities (someone else took the shot you didn’t).
• Lost confidence (each excuse chips away at your self-trust).
• Lost time (the only resource you can’t get back).
Excuses are like interest on a bad loan - the longer you keep them, the more they cost you.
How to Kill Excuses before They Kill Your Dreams
1. Catch yourself in the act.
The second you hear your brain whisper, “I’ll do it later,” call it out. Awareness is step one.
2. Flip the script.
Instead of “I don’t have time,” try “It’s not a priority.” Feels gross, right? That’s the point - it forces honesty.
3. Set tiny, non-negotiable actions.
No more giant promises. One push-up, one email, one DM. Consistency > intensity.
4. Find an accountability partner.
Tell someone what you’ll do and let them roast you if you don’t. Fear of embarrassment can be fuel.
5. Replace excuses with solutions.
“I can’t afford it” → “How can I afford it?”
“I don’t know how” → “Who can I learn from?”
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The Tough-Love Truth
Excuses are keeping you small, safe, and stuck. And if that’s where you want to live, fine—stay there. But don’t complain about not getting the results you didn’t work for.
Life doesn’t reward excuses. It rewards action. Messy, imperfect, sweaty-palmed action.
You don’t need more time, money, or luck. You need less BS and more backbone.
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Your Turn
So here’s your call-out: what’s the biggest excuse you’ve been hiding behind? Write it down. Stare at it. Then ask yourself—am I willing to let this one sentence run my whole damn life?
If not, then today’s the day you bury it.
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