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Excuses Are Just Fancy Lies You Tell Yourself
Let’s cut the crap: excuses are just well-dressed lies. They’re your mind’s Gucci knockoffs - shiny on the outside, useless on the inside. And the truth? Excuses are the reason you’re not where you say you want to be. You’re not “too busy” - you’re scrolling TikTok at midnight. You’re not “too tired” - you just watched another Netflix series you’ll forget in two weeks. You’re not “bad at relationships” - you just keep choosing walking red flags like it’s a sport. Sound harsh

Coach Vess
Nov 273 min read


The Delusion of Constant Motion
Look around. Everyone is " swamped ." Everyone is " slammed ." We wear our overflowing calendars and endless to-do lists as a badge of honor, a public declaration of our importance. We’re all running a race to nowhere, convinced that the more sweat we produce, the more valuable we become. But here’s the cold, hard truth: a lot of you aren’t hard workers. You’re just busy fools. You’re a master of motion, not of action. You spend all day checking emails, attending pointless me

Coach Vess
Nov 254 min read


The "You Complete Me" Lie: The Toughest Truth About Love and Codependency
You've seen the movies. You've heard the songs. "You complete me." "I can't live without you." Let me be clear: this is not love. This is codependency, and it's a disease that’s disguised as devotion. You've been sold a romanticised version of love that says you need to find your "other half" to be whole. But here's the tough truth: if you need someone else to complete you, you’re not ready for a relationship. You're ready for a therapist. Love isn't about two halves trying t

Coach Vess
Nov 203 min read


From Stuck to Unstoppable: How to Spot When It’s Time for a Career Pivot
Here’s the deal: you’re not broken, unmotivated, or lazy. You’re just stuck. And if you’ve been dragging yourself to work every morning with the enthusiasm of a sloth at a spin class, it might be the universe’s way of saying: “Hey, buddy - it’s pivot o’clock.” But most people ignore the signs because change is scary. So they stay in jobs that drain them, careers that don’t fit anymore, and identities that expired five years ago. Let’s get brutally honest. If you’ve been waiti

Coach Vess
Nov 183 min read


Movement is Medicine: Exercise for Your Mind, Not Just Your Jeans
Let’s talk about the gym elephant in the room. Most people still think exercise is all about one thing: shrinking, tightening, toning, or getting “summer body ready.” Cute idea, but also… outdated and toxic. Movement is not punishment for what you ate last night. It’s not a tool to make you smaller so the world approves of you. Here’s the truth bomb: movement is medicine. Not just for your body, but for your brain, your mood, your relationships, your career - your entire damn

Coach Vess
Nov 133 min read


Stop Glorifying Burnout: Why Hustle Culture is Killing Your Career
The Hustle Lie We’re All Buying You’ve heard it a million times: “Sleep is for the weak,” “Hustle harder,” “If you’re not burning out, you’re not trying.” Cute. Toxic. And a lie. Hustle culture loves to dress exhaustion up as ambition so we keep grinding until we’re empty. But here’s the truth nobody flattering influencers will tell you: burnout doesn’t prove your worth - it erases it. It destroys creativity, torpedoes performance, and makes you the exact opposite of indispen

Coach Vess
Nov 115 min read


Your Standards Aren’t Too High, Your Boundaries are Too Low
The Myth of “Too Picky” Raise your hand if you’ve ever been told: “Maybe your standards are too high, babe. Maybe that’s why you’re still single.” Now raise your other hand if you’ve ever thought, “Wait… am I the problem? Am I asking for too much?” Spoiler alert: No, you’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking the wrong people. And if you keep lowering the bar just so Chad-with-a-complex doesn’t feel “intimidated,” then yes - you’ll keep attracting relationships that m

Coach Vess
Oct 305 min read


The Harsh Reality of Your "Love" Story
Let's get one thing straight: You're not a hero for staying in a toxic relationship. You're a hostage. And the idea that you can "fix" this person, or that your love will somehow magically transform them, is a fantasy you've created to avoid the terrifying truth. You are sacrificing your sanity, your self-worth, and your future on the altar of a broken promise. This isn't love. It’s a cycle of chaos and manipulation. One day they're telling you you're the greatest thing that'

Coach Vess
Oct 284 min read


The Salary You Accept = The Standards You Set
Let’s cut the fluff: your salary isn’t just a number. It’s a reflection of what you believe you’re worth - and what you’re willing to tolerate. Every time you accept less than you deserve, you’re not just settling for a pay. You’re broadcasting to the world (and yourself): “This is my standard. This is how much I think I’m worth.” Painful? Yes. Necessary to hear? Absolutely. Because here’s the truth: money talks - but so do your boundaries. So if you’re tired of living pay-to

Coach Vess
Oct 264 min read


The "Self-Care" Lie: Stop with the Bubble Baths and Do the Hard Work
Listen, I'm gonna be blunt. The self-care you've been sold is a lie. It's a sanitised, commodified, and completely ineffective brand of wellbeing that has you thinking a £20 bath bomb and a ten-minute meditation app will magically solve your life problems. We've turned mental health into a punchline and a trend, and it’s time to stop. We’re not talking about a quick fix or a trendy hashtag; we're talking about the real, gruelling work of building a life that doesn’t require y

Coach Vess
Oct 224 min read


What is Life Coaching and how do you know you need it
Are you looking to unlock your potential and achieve your goals in life, wellness, or career? Look no further than a specialised life...

Coach Vess
Jun 21, 20242 min read
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