Stop Saying You’re “Fine”: The Wellness Lies We Tell Ourselves, Part 1

The World’s Most Overused Lie

“How are you?” - “I’m fine.”

No, you’re not. You’re exhausted, your sleep schedule looks like a crime scene, your anxiety has VIP membership status in your brain, and you’ve been living on caffeine and vibes since Monday. But hey - you’re “fine.”

Let’s get real: “fine” is code for I’m not okay but I don’t want to admit it. It’s the autopilot answer we give when we don’t want to dig deeper. But here’s the kicker - your mind, body, and soul already know the truth. And if you keep gaslighting yourself with “fine,” burnout, breakdowns, and bad decisions are waiting around the corner.

So today, let’s unpack the biggest wellness lies we tell ourselves, why we tell them, and how to stop playing yourself.

The Wellness Lies You Keep Telling Yourself (And Why They’re Dangerous)

1. “I’ll Rest When Things Calm Down”

Spoiler alert: things never calm down. Life doesn’t send you a calendar invite that says, “Congrats, everything’s chill now. Please nap.”

Translation: You’re choosing burnout by treating rest like a luxury instead of a necessity.

2. “It’s Just Stress, I Can Handle It”

Stress is not a badge of honor. Chronic stress messes with your hormones, wrecks your immune system, and makes you one argument away from snapping at the Starbucks barista.

Translation: You’re normalising chaos instead of addressing it.

3. “Everyone’s Tired, It’s Just Life”

Yes, adulting is hard. But constant exhaustion is not normal. Being permanently tired isn’t a personality trait - it’s your body waving a giant red flag.

Translation: You’re confusing collective struggle with personal wellness.

4. “At Least I’m Functioning”

Congrats, you’re surviving, not thriving. Functioning at the bare minimum is not the same as living a full, vibrant life.

Translation: You’re settling for mediocrity in your own body.

5. “I Don’t Have Time for Self-Care”

But you do have time for endless scrolling, doom-dating, and binge-watching another true crime documentary at 2AM. Got it.

👉 Translation: You’re prioritizing distractions over discipline.

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Why We Keep Lying to Ourselves

You know it. I know it. So why do we keep playing this game of wellness hide-and-seek?

1. Fear of Change

Admitting you’re not okay means you have to actually do something about it. Scary.

2. Productivity Addiction

We glorify being busy. “Fine” is a way to keep grinding without guilt.

3. Comparison Culture

You look around and think, “Well, at least I’m not as bad as them.” That’s not health, that’s denial.

4. Avoidance of Vulnerability

Saying you’re fine is easier than saying, “I’m overwhelmed, and I need help.”

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The Cost of Pretending You’re Fine

Let’s break down what “fine” actually costs you:

• Physically: Headaches, weight changes, fatigue, insomnia.

• Mentally: Anxiety, brain fog, irritability.

• Emotionally: Resentment, numbness, disconnection.

• Spiritually: Feeling lost, unfulfilled, or constantly restless.

In short: “fine” drains your life force slowly, while convincing you you’re doing “okay.”

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Time for a Tough-Love Reality Check

Here’s what you need to tattoo on your brain:

🔥 Fine is not a wellness strategy.

Wellness is not about green juices and pretty yoga poses. It’s about boundaries, rest, and brutal honesty with yourself. It’s about deciding that “fine” is not your ceiling.

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The “No More Fine” Framework (AKA Your Wellness Wake-Up Call)

Okay babe, let’s move from excuses to execution. Here’s how to level up from “fine” to actually thriving:

1. Call Your Own BS

Start noticing every time you say “I’m fine.” Catch it. Replace it with honesty—even if it’s just admitting: “I’m tired and need to slow down.”

2. Audit Your Energy

Keep a daily log of what drains you vs. what fuels you. If 80% of your life drains you, no wonder you’re always “fine” at best.

3. Build Micro-Moments of Rest

Stop waiting for the perfect week off. Insert small rest breaks—5 minutes of deep breathing, a walk outside, or (gasp) going to bed on time.

4. Redefine Self-Care

It’s not just spa days. It’s:

• Saying no to people who suck the life out of you.

• Drinking actual water, not just iced lattes.

• Unplugging from screens before bed.

5. Upgrade Your Standards

Ask yourself: What does thriving look like for me? Write it down. Then stop accepting “fine” as your personal baseline.

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Spiritual Twist: “Fine” Blocks Your Flow

On a soul level, “fine” is low-vibration energy. It keeps you stuck in survival mode, which blocks your intuition, manifestation power, and inner alignment.

The Universe doesn’t respond to “fine.” It responds to clarity, conviction, and courage. When you declare: “I want more. I deserve better. I refuse to stay here,”you open energetic doors that “fine” will never unlock.

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Real-Life Examples (Because Proof Hits Harder)

• The Burnout Queen

Worked 60+ hours a week, lived on coffee, said “I’m fine” daily. Ended up in hospital with stress-induced health issues. Now? She learned to set boundaries, quit overworking, and feels alive again.

• The Boundary Setter

Used to say yes to everything. Now unapologetically says no to things that drain her. Her energy? Magnetic. Her relationships? Healthier. Her glow? Untouchable.

• The Thriving Switch

Realized “fine” was code for “miserable.” Started therapy, joined fitness classes, and actually took weekends off. She’s not just fine anymore—she’s thriving.

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The Mic Drop Moment

Listen: “Fine” is not a compliment. “Fine” is not a life goal. “Fine” is the beige wall paint of existence—bland, forgettable, lifeless.

So stop lying to yourself. Stop lowering the bar. Stop settling for “fine.”

Because you weren’t put on this Earth to survive—you were put here to live. To thrive. To radiate. To expand.

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CTA: Ready to Ditch “Fine” for Good?

If you’re done playing small with your wellness—if you’re ready to stop saying “I’m fine” and start actually feeling alive—this is your sign.

🔥 I help people just like you break free from burnout, ditch self-sabotage, and create wellness routines that actually stick (and don’t feel like a second job).

👉 Book your wellness coaching session today and let’s turn “fine” into fabulous, energized, and unapologetically thriving.

Because life’s too short to be “fine.”